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		<title>Comment on I&#8217;m Sorry vs. I Apologize by Kevin</title>
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		<description>Preach it James.  Growing up no one ever said &quot;I apologize&quot; to me, If they were sorry they said so.  During a significant relational misstep a decade ago, the person said &quot;I apologize&quot;...  I thought, that is so &quot;formal&quot;, but I took it as a &quot;sorry&quot; at the time, as they intended me to...  

Turns out they really had no sorrow, and as the years passed I reflected that he Was Actually describing more what he could do, might do, has done; that he was &quot;apology capable&quot;. ha  But the actual regret, sorrow, vow to change, etc was never included, YET still &quot;alluded to&quot;.

It ultimately struck me as a cultural placation technique for those with no actual regrets nor empathy.  TODAY a tag on my electric meter says the meter was upgraded and I had a brief power interruption because of it.  The last line is &quot;We apologize for any inconvenience&quot;.  And so where IS the apology?! Do I have to call them to get it? Maybe my redemption coupon blew away ~ha.

I know, it has become the &quot;modern&quot; lingo, and is &quot;standard fare&quot;, but That is the problem, insincerity is the growing &quot;standard fare&quot; too, and I say it is good to have more honest communication when repairing &quot;a problem&quot;, than using metaphors, misnomers, and Euphemisms.

Yet, maybe to go with the flow I will start writing &quot;We pay bills by check&quot; with no check in my invoice envelopes, or saying &quot;I give rides&quot; to the hitchhikers as I drive by. 

Hypocrisy comes to mind when describing a man who said &quot;be warmed, be filled&quot; to his brethren, yet walked away.   Yep, talk is cheap, and &quot;we apologize&quot; is even cheaper.
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Preach it James.  Growing up no one ever said &#8220;I apologize&#8221; to me, If they were sorry they said so.  During a significant relational misstep a decade ago, the person said &#8220;I apologize&#8221;&#8230;  I thought, that is so &#8220;formal&#8221;, but I took it as a &#8220;sorry&#8221; at the time, as they intended me to&#8230;  </p>
<p>Turns out they really had no sorrow, and as the years passed I reflected that he Was Actually describing more what he could do, might do, has done; that he was &#8220;apology capable&#8221;. ha  But the actual regret, sorrow, vow to change, etc was never included, YET still &#8220;alluded to&#8221;.</p>
<p>It ultimately struck me as a cultural placation technique for those with no actual regrets nor empathy.  TODAY a tag on my electric meter says the meter was upgraded and I had a brief power interruption because of it.  The last line is &#8220;We apologize for any inconvenience&#8221;.  And so where IS the apology?! Do I have to call them to get it? Maybe my redemption coupon blew away ~ha.</p>
<p>I know, it has become the &#8220;modern&#8221; lingo, and is &#8220;standard fare&#8221;, but That is the problem, insincerity is the growing &#8220;standard fare&#8221; too, and I say it is good to have more honest communication when repairing &#8220;a problem&#8221;, than using metaphors, misnomers, and Euphemisms.</p>
<p>Yet, maybe to go with the flow I will start writing &#8220;We pay bills by check&#8221; with no check in my invoice envelopes, or saying &#8220;I give rides&#8221; to the hitchhikers as I drive by. </p>
<p>Hypocrisy comes to mind when describing a man who said &#8220;be warmed, be filled&#8221; to his brethren, yet walked away.   Yep, talk is cheap, and &#8220;we apologize&#8221; is even cheaper.<br />
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		<title>Comment on Big Thinking by Verna Mead</title>
		<link>http://jamesboileau.com/coaching/2010/01/big-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-28</link>
		<dc:creator>Verna Mead</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Jun 2010 19:51:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Super awesome article! Really..</description>
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		<title>Comment on Big Thinking by Dennis Dalton</title>
		<link>http://jamesboileau.com/coaching/2010/01/big-thinking/comment-page-1/#comment-10</link>
		<dc:creator>Dennis Dalton</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 31 Jan 2010 16:40:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Great article. I&#039;m inspired!</description>
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